Saturday, March 31, 2007
A bit for fun before work in late February
Gradually, I start to get a bad feeling about the situation. I'm in a taxi on my way to visit a guy before work in late February, but he hasn't answered any of my recent txt msgs or voice calls. I'm on the verge of telling the taxi driver to turn back. I decide to try and call him one last time. It rings for 15 seconds and then
"Errrr hi," says the voice at the other end of the phone.
"Hi mate," I reply relieved, "did you get my txt msgs? I'll be with you soon :-). Where exactly shall we meet?"
"Errrr, I'm not sure."
What does he mean 'not sure'?
"Well I'm in a cab, very close to you I think," I say slightly confused, "where exactly shall I tell the cabby to drop me?"
"Well ... can we do this another time?"
"Another time? WHAT ON EARTH DO YOU MEAN??" I say down the phone in an angry tone, "I told you to send me a txt msg if you changed your mind!"
"Errrr, yes, I know, I mean, well, the thing is ... I've already cum now. And I'm going to be late for work :-(."
What a tosser!
"Well are you going to pay my cab fare?" I say trying to make him feel guilty.
"Ummm, sorry. Well, how about we meet at the weekend. Perhaps I could give you your cab fare then? Most guys who say they'll visit never turn up, I really didn't expect you to either."
A very lame excuse. We exchange a few more sentences before I hang up and instruct the taxi driver to turn back.
A few minutes later, however, my phone rings unexpectedly.
"Errrr, hi, it's me again," he says, "and I've phoned my work and told them that I'm going to be late. So can we meet now? I'm feeling horny again!"
I'm astounded. And pleased because I HATE wasted journeys and no-show situations. After agreeing the meeting point, I hang up and instruct the taxi driver to turn around again.
"Sorry about this," I say, "I don't usually change my mind so much."
"I'll drive you round in circles all day as long as you pay the fare," says the cabbie with a dis-interested tone in his voice. I can't help wondering how much he heard of my phone conversations. No doubt he's seen it all before!
After I get dropped off, I speak to the guy who tells me to take a bus a few stops. How irritating, I thought he was meeting me at the drop off point! Why didn't he tell me get the cab to drop me where the bus is going to take me? Luckily an appropriate bus is just arriving so I hop on. After three stops I get off and he's there to meet me.
"Hi," I say smiling, trying to forget the earlier hiatus, "which way?"
He's got a friendly face, although he looks slightly nervous.
"Just follow me. Sorry about earlier, but I'm well up for it now :-)"
"That's OK," I say. He looks slightly more chubby than in the photos I saw online, but overall I think he looks great.
"Here we are," he says shortly, "I'm on the second floor."
We enter a grubby looking council block, and soon he's letting us both into the flat.
Once we're inside, I follow him into a comfy sitting room.
"We'll do it in here," he says smiling. "By the way, my landlady might be in, sleeping next door. I'm not sure! She's almost certainly out, but just in case she's in, we'd better try not to make too much noise."
"Errr all right," I say feeling a bit confused. I've certainly never been in this situation before!
"What happens if she walks in then?" I ask, "I mean, presumably this is her sitting room? I'd probably find it amusing actually," I giggle, "I'm not shy, but you have to live here!"
"Good point," he says, as though he hadn't considered the possibility. While he's unbuttoning his shirt, he walks over and moves a small table to bar the door. He then goes over and switches on the television.
"That should cover up any noise!" he says smiling.
By now I'm standing there in my undershorts, looking lustfully at his half naked body, while wondering whether he normally entertains other guys like this in his landlady's sitting room with the TV turned on when she might be in.
"... and over to Declan now for our business news," drones the TV.
The cushions on the sofa are wonderfully soft, and make a very comfortable bed for us to lie down on and get to know each other a bit better.
"... with rain moving into South Wales during the course of the afternoon ..."
In spite of all the distractions though, we have a lovely time together.
"So do you meet many guys," I ask him afterwards.
"Oh a few I guess, when my girlfriend's not around."
"I didn't realise you had a girlfriend," I say. "Actually I met a guy for fun last month who had a girlfriend."
"I think a lot of the guys I get chatting to on gaydar also have girlfriends", he replies, "and I reckon there's more and more of them coming online these days".
"Uh huh, how come?"
"Well, there didn't used to be the opportunity. The online cruising web sites make it so easy to find a bit of fun :-)!"
Perhaps he's right, which is good news. The more hot guys online there are the better, I really don't care whether they're gay or 'straight'!
"Errrr hi," says the voice at the other end of the phone.
"Hi mate," I reply relieved, "did you get my txt msgs? I'll be with you soon :-). Where exactly shall we meet?"
"Errrr, I'm not sure."
What does he mean 'not sure'?
"Well I'm in a cab, very close to you I think," I say slightly confused, "where exactly shall I tell the cabby to drop me?"
"Well ... can we do this another time?"
"Another time? WHAT ON EARTH DO YOU MEAN??" I say down the phone in an angry tone, "I told you to send me a txt msg if you changed your mind!"
"Errrr, yes, I know, I mean, well, the thing is ... I've already cum now. And I'm going to be late for work :-(."
What a tosser!
"Well are you going to pay my cab fare?" I say trying to make him feel guilty.
"Ummm, sorry. Well, how about we meet at the weekend. Perhaps I could give you your cab fare then? Most guys who say they'll visit never turn up, I really didn't expect you to either."
A very lame excuse. We exchange a few more sentences before I hang up and instruct the taxi driver to turn back.
A few minutes later, however, my phone rings unexpectedly.
"Errrr, hi, it's me again," he says, "and I've phoned my work and told them that I'm going to be late. So can we meet now? I'm feeling horny again!"
I'm astounded. And pleased because I HATE wasted journeys and no-show situations. After agreeing the meeting point, I hang up and instruct the taxi driver to turn around again.
"Sorry about this," I say, "I don't usually change my mind so much."
"I'll drive you round in circles all day as long as you pay the fare," says the cabbie with a dis-interested tone in his voice. I can't help wondering how much he heard of my phone conversations. No doubt he's seen it all before!
After I get dropped off, I speak to the guy who tells me to take a bus a few stops. How irritating, I thought he was meeting me at the drop off point! Why didn't he tell me get the cab to drop me where the bus is going to take me? Luckily an appropriate bus is just arriving so I hop on. After three stops I get off and he's there to meet me.
"Hi," I say smiling, trying to forget the earlier hiatus, "which way?"
He's got a friendly face, although he looks slightly nervous.
"Just follow me. Sorry about earlier, but I'm well up for it now :-)"
"That's OK," I say. He looks slightly more chubby than in the photos I saw online, but overall I think he looks great.
"Here we are," he says shortly, "I'm on the second floor."
We enter a grubby looking council block, and soon he's letting us both into the flat.
Once we're inside, I follow him into a comfy sitting room.
"We'll do it in here," he says smiling. "By the way, my landlady might be in, sleeping next door. I'm not sure! She's almost certainly out, but just in case she's in, we'd better try not to make too much noise."
"Errr all right," I say feeling a bit confused. I've certainly never been in this situation before!
"What happens if she walks in then?" I ask, "I mean, presumably this is her sitting room? I'd probably find it amusing actually," I giggle, "I'm not shy, but you have to live here!"
"Good point," he says, as though he hadn't considered the possibility. While he's unbuttoning his shirt, he walks over and moves a small table to bar the door. He then goes over and switches on the television.
"That should cover up any noise!" he says smiling.
By now I'm standing there in my undershorts, looking lustfully at his half naked body, while wondering whether he normally entertains other guys like this in his landlady's sitting room with the TV turned on when she might be in.
"... and over to Declan now for our business news," drones the TV.
The cushions on the sofa are wonderfully soft, and make a very comfortable bed for us to lie down on and get to know each other a bit better.
"... with rain moving into South Wales during the course of the afternoon ..."
In spite of all the distractions though, we have a lovely time together.
"So do you meet many guys," I ask him afterwards.
"Oh a few I guess, when my girlfriend's not around."
"I didn't realise you had a girlfriend," I say. "Actually I met a guy for fun last month who had a girlfriend."
"I think a lot of the guys I get chatting to on gaydar also have girlfriends", he replies, "and I reckon there's more and more of them coming online these days".
"Uh huh, how come?"
"Well, there didn't used to be the opportunity. The online cruising web sites make it so easy to find a bit of fun :-)!"
Perhaps he's right, which is good news. The more hot guys online there are the better, I really don't care whether they're gay or 'straight'!
Friday, March 30, 2007
Tuesday, March 27, 2007
Milano
After our long weekend in the alps, myself and boyfriend number 1 headed down to Milan. Although we've been all over Italy together, we'd never been to Milan, so we spent several happy days there.
For a comprehensive list of gay venues in Milan, including those venues where one can find activities, visit the Arcigay di Milano website. On this trip however, I didn't visit any such venues. So for readers wanting a few random ideas for other things to do, here are GB's Three Top Tourism Tips for Milano:
For a comprehensive list of gay venues in Milan, including those venues where one can find activities, visit the Arcigay di Milano website. On this trip however, I didn't visit any such venues. So for readers wanting a few random ideas for other things to do, here are GB's Three Top Tourism Tips for Milano:
Walk all over the roof of the famous Duomo. Only 6 euros, and magnificent views of the surrounding area and of course the Duomo itself.- Visit the Leonardo da Vinci National Museum for Science and Technology, another win for only 6 euros. There's lots of impressive stuff, including a huge old sailing ship which was dismantled and reassembled inside the museum, and a big shed of old steam trains. There's also a gallery dedicated to Leonardo da Vinci's weird and wonderful inventions. And in the basement, I found the following information about manual nail manufacture:
An average blacksmith who's never made nails before, if he had to try for some reason, could make around 200-300 nails a day. But they wouldn't be particularly good quality nails. A blacksmith with some experience, but whose main job wasn't making nails, could make maybe 800-1000 nails a day. And even an expert blacksmith, who had spent his entire life dedicated to making nails, could only make 2300 nails a day.
Well I thought it was fascinating anyway! 
Visit Peck, perhaps the best delicatessen in Milan. In the basement, they've got what is without doubt the best wine selection that I've ever seen for sale off the shelf. There's Chateau Petrus 1979, lots of first growth clarets including 2000's and other great vintages, magnums of 1st and 2nd growth clarets, 5 litre and 6 litre bottles of first growths from 1990 and other good years, bottles of de Vogue Musigny vieille vignes 2000 and other top Burgundy grand crus, Montrachet (if you like white burgundy), lots of Sassaicaia of course in bottles and up to 5 litre and 6 litre format, the only thing missing was DRC (maybe I just missed it)! It's interesting to see such an impressive selection, however I wouldn't advise buying the expensive stuff. Wine of this quality should be stored in in the dark, lying on its side in carefully controlled conditions, so I'd worry about what the effect of shop storage would be!
Abolition
At the moment, the BBC are running a series of programmes about the abolition of the slave trade 200 years ago. It poses some interesting questions and as a result, there's a discussion in the UK media at the moment about whether the UK should should formally apologise for its part in the slave trade. Some people are even saying that reparations are somehow appropriate.
From a gay point of view, reparations would set a nice precedent wouldn't they? Gay people suffered enormous persecution in the UK until 1967 when homosexuality was decriminalised. If reparations are payable for the slave trade, reparations should also be payable to all gay people to compensate us for the errors of history too. But who pays for all the reparations? Most of us do, because most of us are taxpayers.
I've got a better idea. How about we all accept that history can't be altered, that everyone's ancestors will be guilty of something if you go far enough back, and instead spend time worrying about how to address today's important issues!
From a gay point of view, reparations would set a nice precedent wouldn't they? Gay people suffered enormous persecution in the UK until 1967 when homosexuality was decriminalised. If reparations are payable for the slave trade, reparations should also be payable to all gay people to compensate us for the errors of history too. But who pays for all the reparations? Most of us do, because most of us are taxpayers.
I've got a better idea. How about we all accept that history can't be altered, that everyone's ancestors will be guilty of something if you go far enough back, and instead spend time worrying about how to address today's important issues!
Sunday, March 25, 2007
An email from a young gay reader in a relationship
About a week ago, I received an e-mail from a young gay reader in a relationship:
Dear GB,
Well im 19 goin on 20 and me and my bf have been together for a long time. And we're pretty serious. Well only problem is i love him tons but hes not everything i want. Hes so stuck on me he will do whatever i say slash want. which sounds good on paper, but sometimes i want a mans man. Sometimes i wanna be held and i want to follow someone around let them make the decsions sometimes. I dont really know what i should do. Sometimes i catch my self thinkin of cheatin on him. i think thats bad but i read ur blog and sometimes i think it be ok. not that i have options on that anyway. Only problem is that wouldnt fix the relationship. So do you have any advice.
Since I got this e-mail I've been thinking about the situation, and it's not an easy one. Definitely a situation where readers comments will be important.
For what it's worth, I reckon that good relationships are balanced between the two people involved, and it sounds to me as though this relationship isn't balanced. I've seen situations before where one guy will do anything to please the other guy because the first guy is scared that the relationship might end. But if it gets to that point, the relationship is in serious trouble. The first guy becomes really clingy, and the other guy feels trapped, and it sounds like this is what the reader is describing.
This situation can arise when the first guy develops low self-confidence for whatever reason. They end up thinking "I can't let this relationship end because I'll never find another boyfriend", and then do anything they can to try and please their boyfriend. In this situation, one solution is to try and help the guy rebuild his self-confidence. But it's not an easy thing to do, and sometimes in this situation, the guy who has developed low self-confidence might refuse to be helped. A good boyfriend should stick by his guy for a while, but eventually there comes a point when the best way to help the guy is to end the relationship so as to force the guy to help himself.
Perhaps the situation that this reader faces isn't as serious as that. He says that he's been in the relationship a long time, but he's only 19 so the two of them have probably spent all their early adult life together. It still sounds as though the boyfriend has become clingy though, perhaps because he can't imagine adult life without the guy he's known for so long. It also sounds as though the relationship is monogamous, but there's no reason why it has to be. The easiest step away from monogamy would be for the reader to suggest to his boyfriend that they start having threesomes. A more open arrangement could be a subsequent step. I would suggest that the reader should discuss these ideas with his boyfriend, so as to avoid cheating on him. If they have indeed been with each other for most of their adult lives this would have advantages to both of them, because it would broaden both of their horizons. If the boyfriend resists this idea, then perhaps he does have self-confidence problems.
At the relatively young age of 19, the reader hopefully has a very long life ahead of him. It may well be that the guy that he's been with so far isn't the best guy for him to spend the rest of his life with. It would be convenient if he has found his soul-mate for life, but just because it's convenient doesn't make it true. Above all, he needs to be able to discuss important issues like monogamy with his boyfriend, and if such discussions are difficult it's a bad sign for the long term prospects of the relationship.
As I said above, I reckon this is quite a difficult situation. So do any other readers have any other advice to offer?
Dear GB,
Well im 19 goin on 20 and me and my bf have been together for a long time. And we're pretty serious. Well only problem is i love him tons but hes not everything i want. Hes so stuck on me he will do whatever i say slash want. which sounds good on paper, but sometimes i want a mans man. Sometimes i wanna be held and i want to follow someone around let them make the decsions sometimes. I dont really know what i should do. Sometimes i catch my self thinkin of cheatin on him. i think thats bad but i read ur blog and sometimes i think it be ok. not that i have options on that anyway. Only problem is that wouldnt fix the relationship. So do you have any advice.
Since I got this e-mail I've been thinking about the situation, and it's not an easy one. Definitely a situation where readers comments will be important.
For what it's worth, I reckon that good relationships are balanced between the two people involved, and it sounds to me as though this relationship isn't balanced. I've seen situations before where one guy will do anything to please the other guy because the first guy is scared that the relationship might end. But if it gets to that point, the relationship is in serious trouble. The first guy becomes really clingy, and the other guy feels trapped, and it sounds like this is what the reader is describing.
This situation can arise when the first guy develops low self-confidence for whatever reason. They end up thinking "I can't let this relationship end because I'll never find another boyfriend", and then do anything they can to try and please their boyfriend. In this situation, one solution is to try and help the guy rebuild his self-confidence. But it's not an easy thing to do, and sometimes in this situation, the guy who has developed low self-confidence might refuse to be helped. A good boyfriend should stick by his guy for a while, but eventually there comes a point when the best way to help the guy is to end the relationship so as to force the guy to help himself.
Perhaps the situation that this reader faces isn't as serious as that. He says that he's been in the relationship a long time, but he's only 19 so the two of them have probably spent all their early adult life together. It still sounds as though the boyfriend has become clingy though, perhaps because he can't imagine adult life without the guy he's known for so long. It also sounds as though the relationship is monogamous, but there's no reason why it has to be. The easiest step away from monogamy would be for the reader to suggest to his boyfriend that they start having threesomes. A more open arrangement could be a subsequent step. I would suggest that the reader should discuss these ideas with his boyfriend, so as to avoid cheating on him. If they have indeed been with each other for most of their adult lives this would have advantages to both of them, because it would broaden both of their horizons. If the boyfriend resists this idea, then perhaps he does have self-confidence problems.
At the relatively young age of 19, the reader hopefully has a very long life ahead of him. It may well be that the guy that he's been with so far isn't the best guy for him to spend the rest of his life with. It would be convenient if he has found his soul-mate for life, but just because it's convenient doesn't make it true. Above all, he needs to be able to discuss important issues like monogamy with his boyfriend, and if such discussions are difficult it's a bad sign for the long term prospects of the relationship.
As I said above, I reckon this is quite a difficult situation. So do any other readers have any other advice to offer?
Saturday, March 24, 2007
WildmanT's Ball Lifter
WildmanT's Ball Lifter lifts without any fancy contraptions or discomfort.
Simply, a soft elastic band rests under your "boys" lifting them up and forward, pushing all of your cock and balls forward. And the best part is, it's all you. It is sexy and hotter than a jock strap. Check out the results with this before and after photo:
Friday, March 23, 2007
Washing your foreskin
The Uncut Cock has been posting about washing foreskin. Now I've always just used soap and water in the shower to wash my cock and underneath my foreskin. But it seems that maybe you should just retract the foreskin, rinse the inner fold of the foreskin and glans with warm water only. Now I always thought that you shouldn't treat it any differently from the rest of your body. Yeah if you rub soap into it obsessively then it will get irritated or damaged. But it's a pretty simple concept, really ... if the soap is ok to use on the rest of your body, surely it's ok to clean your cock with it. I really can't imagine someone using only water for personal hygiene. I have always treated my foreskin as another few square inches of skin, and I have never had problems with it - the soap has never "dried it out," or irritated it or caused infection... and I don't have a problem with odor, either.
What do you do or think about this?
What do you do or think about this?
Thursday, March 22, 2007
A short trip to the alps
"What do you think the situation is on that table over there?" I say to my friends over dinner, "eight people, all guys, they're probably all raving homosexuals eh!"Myself and boyfriend number 1, together with a couple of friends, have come away to a smart hotel in the alps for a long weekend. Although they're not married, our two friends have been a heterosexual 'item' for many years. And sitting in a 2-star Michelin restaurant on the first evening, I spot what may be a table full of gay guys.
"We never think to assess the sexuality of the other diners," says M, who's the female half of the couple. "We've led a sheltered life GB," she jokes, "although we do sometimes try to spot blokes with their mistresses, or straight couples who really shouldn't be together!"
"Well myself and boyfriend number 1 enjoy looking for other gay guys in restaurants, especially top restaurants like this," I reply. "It's a great sport, and that table is a perfect example. About three of those guys DEFINITELY look gay, but the others are a little harder to read.""It'd be interesting if you saw Amanda in a restaurant with her partner," pipes up M's boyfriend, "I wonder what you'd make of her!"
"Who's Amanda then?" I ask, "and what's unusual about her?"
Our friends grin knowingly at each other. "Oh, she's just a colleague from work," continues M's boyfriend.
"I guess you could say she's got an interesting background!" adds M.
"Well if she was here I could try and guess her interesting background, but it's a bit hard to work anything out without seeing her!" I protest.
"Yes I suppose so. One thing about Amanda is that she's a lesbian."
"OK, well that's not that unusual. What does she look like then?"
"About 6 foot 3 inches tall, deep voice, and built like a big American football player," laughs M's boyfriend, "she used to be a man!"For a few seconds I don't know what to say, I've never heard of a lesbian who used to be a man!
"It almost seems like a contradiction in terms," I say eventually, still confused. "I mean, if a guy likes women that's quite standard, but how on earth does a guy decide that he likes women from a lesbian point of view? I've never heard of that before!"
"Well, we were all quite surprised in the office too!" M's boyfriend replies. "But she's definitely much happier now. She's got a girlfriend, so everything has worked out for her. She'd wanted to have the operation ever since she was a teenage boy, but she only managed to get it done a few years ago."
I can't imagine what it must have been like, being a teenage boy, and genuinely realising that I want to become a lesbian. I've said before on this blog that I didn't find it easy coming out as a gay guy, but I must have had it so much easier than Amanda did.
Tuesday, March 20, 2007
Adverts and sponsorship
A few weeks ago, I mentioned that I've been getting a few e-mails from guys interested in meeting me. On a similar note, I've also received a couple of e-mails asking me whether I'd be interested in carrying any adverts, or being sponsored by anyone. For the moment at least, I don't need the income, so I've declined the invitations.
I use www.statcounter.com to monitor visitors to this blog and where they come from. Given the adult nature of some of my postings, it's not surprising that many of the searches that find their way to this blog are indeed the result of adult-oriented searches. Which would pose an interesting dilemma should I ever decide to start carrying adverts.
When I interviewed GBD, I suggested that blogs which carry adverts look a bit cheap. In general I still think that's true, and I reckon that adverts of a more adult nature make a blog look even cheaper. The dilemma is that those would be exactly the adverts that would probably do very well on this blog!
In fact my number of daily visitors seems to be going up at the moment. January saw an average of 520 page loads a day from a daily average of 350 unique visitors, February was an average of 630 page loads daily from 450 unique visitors, but since the start of March there's been an average of 810 daily page loads from 580 unique visitors. I know that these figures are small in the big scheme of things, although one good thing is that there's reasonable consistency from one day to the next.
Since I don't intend to carry adverts, this whole subject is really of academic interest only, but I'd still quite like to know what this blog's revenue generation potential is for different types of adverts or sponsorship. Even though I don't need the income at the moment, if it is possible to generate any meaningful amount of money perhaps I should take adverts and donate the money to charity somehow? Anyway, if anyone out there can give me any insight into this subject I'd be very interested to hear what they have to say.
I use www.statcounter.com to monitor visitors to this blog and where they come from. Given the adult nature of some of my postings, it's not surprising that many of the searches that find their way to this blog are indeed the result of adult-oriented searches. Which would pose an interesting dilemma should I ever decide to start carrying adverts.
When I interviewed GBD, I suggested that blogs which carry adverts look a bit cheap. In general I still think that's true, and I reckon that adverts of a more adult nature make a blog look even cheaper. The dilemma is that those would be exactly the adverts that would probably do very well on this blog!
In fact my number of daily visitors seems to be going up at the moment. January saw an average of 520 page loads a day from a daily average of 350 unique visitors, February was an average of 630 page loads daily from 450 unique visitors, but since the start of March there's been an average of 810 daily page loads from 580 unique visitors. I know that these figures are small in the big scheme of things, although one good thing is that there's reasonable consistency from one day to the next.
Since I don't intend to carry adverts, this whole subject is really of academic interest only, but I'd still quite like to know what this blog's revenue generation potential is for different types of adverts or sponsorship. Even though I don't need the income at the moment, if it is possible to generate any meaningful amount of money perhaps I should take adverts and donate the money to charity somehow? Anyway, if anyone out there can give me any insight into this subject I'd be very interested to hear what they have to say.
Sunday, March 18, 2007
Lo No Sho Army with Sling Support
When I was in Singapore I bought myself these:
They are a low rise trunk with ultra plush microfiber waistband. It took a while but I've found that the loop sling is really cool and comfortable. The advertising blurb says that
Here's how the sling works:
They are a low rise trunk with ultra plush microfiber waistband. It took a while but I've found that the loop sling is really cool and comfortable. The advertising blurb says that
C-in2 UNDERWEAR is made from the softest, finely woven cotton jersey. The super soft waistband completes a design which, within minutes of wearing, comfortably conforms to your body as no other brand of men's underwear does. Once you switch to C-in2 and the C-in2 Sling Support, you will see and feel the difference, and there will be no turning back.
Here's how the sling works:
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