Wednesday, December 28, 2011
Back home
So were back home from a lovely few days away. We were in an ocean villa which was simply huge, perfectly secluded and had an uninterrupted view out over the ocean. Absolute privacy meant we were naked most of the time. Just beautiful. Hope you all had a great Christmas too.
Sunday, December 25, 2011
A very Happy Christmas to all my readers
This year, I managed to get away on holiday with boyfriend T for Christmas :-). However, it turned out that although the weather at our holiday destination was warm, it was also gray, overcast and a bit rainy :-(! Below are a couple of pics taken over the last couple of days, in case anyone wants to hazard a guess as to where we are.
In any case, I hope all my readers have a very Merry Christmas, wherever they may be :-).
GB xxx
In any case, I hope all my readers have a very Merry Christmas, wherever they may be :-).
GB xxx
Saturday, December 24, 2011
Merry Christmas
Tuesday, December 20, 2011
The 11 Best/Worst Vagina Tattoos Of All Time
Would you?The 11 Best/Worst Vagina Tattoos Of All TimeWhat guy is going to think it's hot to put his dick in Homer Simpson's mouth?
Sunday, December 18, 2011
Saturday, December 17, 2011
Harrogate baths end male sessions after 'inappropriate behaviour'
Councillors have decided to end male-only sessions at Harrogate's Turkish baths after reports of "inappropriate behaviour", it has emerged.We've also got an original Turkish Bath in Newcastle but a couple of years ago they also introduced a no nudity policy. There's nothing worse I find than sitting around in a sauna or steam-room with swimming shorts on.
Friday, December 16, 2011
The new customised condom brand: TheyFit
Yesterday I received an email from an ex Goldman Sachs trader called Joe Nelson, who's set up a company called TheyFit which makes condoms in 95 different sizes! So this is a condom brand that fits both length and girth :-).
The idea is simple. Guys download and print out the Fit Kit, which lets them work out the best size for them. They can then place an order on the web site. If anyone wants to try ouy this new brand, Joe has sent me a code which will give readers a 15% discount:
The 'GS' in the discount code refers to the investment bank Goldman Sachs where Joe used to work. Because of that, London's evening newspaper wrote an article about Joe's condoms with the title Goldman Sex - how Londoners measure up!15% discount code: GBGS15
It occurred to me last night that if this catches on, the TheyFit measurement codes might one day become the definitive way of talking about cock size. Will women, and guys who like to be bottom, one day be saying things like "My last boyfriend was a D21 which was PAINFUL, but I'm much happier with my new guy who's a comfortable B77 :-)"?
Anyway, if any reader does try out this new condom brand, do come back and leave a comment to let us all know what you think!
Update 14-Jan-2012: Originally the discount code was only valid for 30 days. However, today I got an email from Joe telling me that he'd seen a lot of people use GBGS15, so he's extended it for another month :-).
Monday, December 12, 2011
Saturday, December 10, 2011
Friday, December 9, 2011
Looking good on camera for a TV pilot? Volunteers please!
This morning I received the following email from Anna Shaw of Rockabox media:
Hi there,
I've just stumbled across your blog - loving it! I'm a TV producer developing a dating show for bisexual 16 - 25 year olds. Lots of my friends are bi and I've never seen anything like this on TV before. I wanted to drop you a line as I'm currently looking for people to take part and wondered if you might know anyone who would be good on camera?
All the best
When she said that she'd "never seen anything like this on TV before", I assume she meant the kind of posts that I used to write relating to my gay life, which I don't have time to write at the moment. In which case, I think there has been something similar on TV before, in particular Queer as folk :-). So I asked her about Queer as folk to which she replied:
Yeah, similar lines definitely but we want to do it for real.
Anyway, if any readers want to take part, or know someone who'd like to take part, then please contact anna.shaw@rockaboxmedia.com as soon as possible!
Hi there,
I've just stumbled across your blog - loving it! I'm a TV producer developing a dating show for bisexual 16 - 25 year olds. Lots of my friends are bi and I've never seen anything like this on TV before. I wanted to drop you a line as I'm currently looking for people to take part and wondered if you might know anyone who would be good on camera?
All the best
When she said that she'd "never seen anything like this on TV before", I assume she meant the kind of posts that I used to write relating to my gay life, which I don't have time to write at the moment. In which case, I think there has been something similar on TV before, in particular Queer as folk :-). So I asked her about Queer as folk to which she replied:
Yeah, similar lines definitely but we want to do it for real.
Anyway, if any readers want to take part, or know someone who'd like to take part, then please contact anna.shaw@rockaboxmedia.com as soon as possible!
Thursday, December 8, 2011
Communal
I'm not sure I could do this so publicly. Its the one thing Kim and I have always kept private.
Random Question Of The Day?
Another Random Question Of The Day?
You Must Pick Only One? Which One & Why?
1) Your straight amazingly HOT roommate comes to you and says ” Dude im not gay or anything but i wanna know what it feels like to fuck a guys ass…. you think i could do it to you”
2) Your twin brother comes to you and says “Dad has asked me if we would be up for having a circle jerk with him…. you think we should?”
3) The hottest black guy at a sauna walks up to you, flops out his 10inch coke can thick uncut cock and says “None of these pussies can take this…. you think your up for it?”
or 4) A cop busts you at the local beat and is about to arrest you. He says “Listen fag ill let you go with a warning on one condition…. you let me blow my load in your cunt”
You Must Pick Only One? Which One & Why?
1) Your straight amazingly HOT roommate comes to you and says ” Dude im not gay or anything but i wanna know what it feels like to fuck a guys ass…. you think i could do it to you”
2) Your twin brother comes to you and says “Dad has asked me if we would be up for having a circle jerk with him…. you think we should?”
3) The hottest black guy at a sauna walks up to you, flops out his 10inch coke can thick uncut cock and says “None of these pussies can take this…. you think your up for it?”
or 4) A cop busts you at the local beat and is about to arrest you. He says “Listen fag ill let you go with a warning on one condition…. you let me blow my load in your cunt”
Favourite Underwear
Thanks to Queer Heaven for sharing this with me. He said: "You asked about our favorite undies.. I have many, but this pair of Calvin Klein White Briefs are my favorite. They hug my butt nicely and my balls always feel very happy I when I wear these."
Wednesday, December 7, 2011
Charity donations at Christmas
For the last four years, I've asked readers to give me suggestions for Christmas charity donations (see 2007, 2008, 2009, 2010).In connection with this, a few weeks ago I received a direct email request from a charity called Positively UK for a donation, so I've already used my charity account to give them £100. But there's still an excess in that account of around £1000, so if anyone has any suggestions for the rest then please leave a comment. The only condition is that the beneficiaries have to be registered UK charities :-).
Tuesday, December 6, 2011
Sunday, December 4, 2011
What kind of underwear is most of a turn on for you??
WHAT BRAND??
WHAT KIND???
WHY???
Post your images if possible
WHAT KIND???
WHY???
Post your images if possible
Saturday, December 3, 2011
Cock Identification Guide
Just came across this ID Guide and so I thought I'd post a new Poll (see opposite).
Friday, December 2, 2011
Monday, November 28, 2011
Gay sex and the City
Last July, I did a post about GMFA's Sexual Health Messaging Service in the UK. I got another email from them today, which contained a link to a video that they've made to promote the service, see below:Email from a gay guy who lives in India
A few weeks ago the following email arrived in my inbox:
Dear GB,
I love your blog, it is full of real stuff, which means you have a mind of your own and you do not fear of being honest. The very reason for writing to you. Now, about my letter.
Well, I maybe a type "Z"-personality among gays, since I am not gay material:
Well, I am searching for a gay partner after all these shortcomings, but I seem to stumble upon people who forget me after sex. I am 31 years old, Indian (Asian), been cruising from the time I was 24, have met 25 men out of which I had sex with 11 guys (very accurately).
Because most reject me.
One reason for all this rejection perhaps would be because:
Whatever be, in the end I am sad. That is why I am writing this to you with a thumping heart.
What is my hope, if any? I am not putting you or any reader on the opponents chair because that is silly. But I am also not saying, I do not want sex nor am I saying do not expect love from my dates. But if you feel my letter is honest do tell your valuable opinions.
I want to know:
But I am not silly enough to ask you to answer all of these questions because you are "never" answerable and you are as much a victim of all these stereotypes in one way or the other and so are all gays in general. I fear honestly, we are victims of some oldish withered male body image, which is crippling our chances of love and bonding sans body differences and racial and mental variance.
I feel you are a powerful person who can bring about changes in "our" sensitive world. Sorry for this bother, but I feel it is time for me to speak to powerful gay individuals who believe life is hopeful and worthful.
Thank you for being patient and kind to read. I have hope in you and all gays. Regards and love.
The good thing about this reader is that he doesn't seem to have any problem accepting the fact that he's gay. A lot of the emails that I've received recently have been from young guys who're still in the early stages of working out that they're gay, but this reader has clearly progressed a long way beyond that :-). However, he does seem to have a lot of complaints about gay life!
Although it may be slightly unfair, some aspects of the reader's email remind me of the recent South Park episode, in which a large majority of men across America all get angry and disruptive just because they think their penis length is below average! The situation is only resolved when the US government officially defines the average penis size as 1.5 inches (3.8 cm), so that all men can then think of themselves as above average LOL! Is this reader just complaining because he thinks that he's below average?
It's a fact that far more guys are straight than gay. This means that if one wants to try and define an "average sexuality", then the answer would be "straight". If one then wants to define "above average", then because of the way that we're brought up we'd probably think that it's the successful so called alpha males who've got the "above average" sexuality. Unfortunately, that kind of implies that the gay sexuality is "below average" :-(. Maybe this analysis helps explain why some guys still have a problem accepting that they're gay, even though the Western world generally accepts that gay people are part of society these days.
Of course, all these ideas about above and below average penis sizes, and by extension above and below average sexualities, are ridiculous! When guys finally accept that they're gay, then they've managed to see through that kind of nonsense and come to terms with their situation. Acceptance of these kinds of facts is an important part of one's personal development, whether it relates to one's ability at sport, one's sexuality, one's appearance, one's penis size, or whatever. Once facts that one has no control over are accepted then people can move on. However, a failure to accept these kinds of things means that they're carried around in one's mind as a burden. This has a strong connection with my idea about the confidence mirror, where other people's attitudes to things that relate to a particular individual can often simply just be a reflection of that individual's own feelings. The way forward is to avoid such traps by accepting things the way they are.
Thinking about the reader's email in this way, I can't help wondering how many of the problems that he's experienced relate to his own attitude. It's true that some gay guys are shallow and focus on things like penis size, but in my experience most guys don't focus on that type of thing.
In summary, my advice to the reader is to try and accept things the way they are, and adopt a more positive and constructive attitude to boyfriend hunting. In a dating situation, confidence is probably the most important quality, so he should do everything he can to discard all his mental baggage and build his confidence.
Does anyone else have any other thoughts for this reader?
Dear GB,
I love your blog, it is full of real stuff, which means you have a mind of your own and you do not fear of being honest. The very reason for writing to you. Now, about my letter.
Well, I maybe a type "Z"-personality among gays, since I am not gay material:
- I do not have a long penis (excretory organ) or a stereotypical face or body type;
- Moreover I am against gay stereotyping and male body stereotyping.
Well, I am searching for a gay partner after all these shortcomings, but I seem to stumble upon people who forget me after sex. I am 31 years old, Indian (Asian), been cruising from the time I was 24, have met 25 men out of which I had sex with 11 guys (very accurately).
Because most reject me.
One reason for all this rejection perhaps would be because:
- I refused to become a bottom or a Top; or
- because I am ugly, contrary to the gay image portrayed in media; or
- I am seeking love before sex; or
- the guys wanted big penis.
Whatever be, in the end I am sad. That is why I am writing this to you with a thumping heart.
What is my hope, if any? I am not putting you or any reader on the opponents chair because that is silly. But I am also not saying, I do not want sex nor am I saying do not expect love from my dates. But if you feel my letter is honest do tell your valuable opinions.
I want to know:
- Why is gay media portraying a male body image which is only a few types (maybe 5 or six)?
- Why the penis is the favourite organ (it is an excretory organ)?
- Why gay monogamy is shunned by media?
- Why the West thinks that gay men in India are rejected by straights (which is not true at all) and gay Indians do not have any other problems other than being gays?
But I am not silly enough to ask you to answer all of these questions because you are "never" answerable and you are as much a victim of all these stereotypes in one way or the other and so are all gays in general. I fear honestly, we are victims of some oldish withered male body image, which is crippling our chances of love and bonding sans body differences and racial and mental variance.
I feel you are a powerful person who can bring about changes in "our" sensitive world. Sorry for this bother, but I feel it is time for me to speak to powerful gay individuals who believe life is hopeful and worthful.
Thank you for being patient and kind to read. I have hope in you and all gays. Regards and love.
The good thing about this reader is that he doesn't seem to have any problem accepting the fact that he's gay. A lot of the emails that I've received recently have been from young guys who're still in the early stages of working out that they're gay, but this reader has clearly progressed a long way beyond that :-). However, he does seem to have a lot of complaints about gay life!
Although it may be slightly unfair, some aspects of the reader's email remind me of the recent South Park episode, in which a large majority of men across America all get angry and disruptive just because they think their penis length is below average! The situation is only resolved when the US government officially defines the average penis size as 1.5 inches (3.8 cm), so that all men can then think of themselves as above average LOL! Is this reader just complaining because he thinks that he's below average?It's a fact that far more guys are straight than gay. This means that if one wants to try and define an "average sexuality", then the answer would be "straight". If one then wants to define "above average", then because of the way that we're brought up we'd probably think that it's the successful so called alpha males who've got the "above average" sexuality. Unfortunately, that kind of implies that the gay sexuality is "below average" :-(. Maybe this analysis helps explain why some guys still have a problem accepting that they're gay, even though the Western world generally accepts that gay people are part of society these days.
Of course, all these ideas about above and below average penis sizes, and by extension above and below average sexualities, are ridiculous! When guys finally accept that they're gay, then they've managed to see through that kind of nonsense and come to terms with their situation. Acceptance of these kinds of facts is an important part of one's personal development, whether it relates to one's ability at sport, one's sexuality, one's appearance, one's penis size, or whatever. Once facts that one has no control over are accepted then people can move on. However, a failure to accept these kinds of things means that they're carried around in one's mind as a burden. This has a strong connection with my idea about the confidence mirror, where other people's attitudes to things that relate to a particular individual can often simply just be a reflection of that individual's own feelings. The way forward is to avoid such traps by accepting things the way they are.
Thinking about the reader's email in this way, I can't help wondering how many of the problems that he's experienced relate to his own attitude. It's true that some gay guys are shallow and focus on things like penis size, but in my experience most guys don't focus on that type of thing.
In summary, my advice to the reader is to try and accept things the way they are, and adopt a more positive and constructive attitude to boyfriend hunting. In a dating situation, confidence is probably the most important quality, so he should do everything he can to discard all his mental baggage and build his confidence.
Does anyone else have any other thoughts for this reader?
Sunday, November 27, 2011
India
For those of you who were wondering, I've been in India but am back home now. Managed to keep safe whilst I was away.
Thursday, November 24, 2011
Wednesday, November 23, 2011
Tuesday, November 22, 2011
Monday, November 21, 2011
Goodbye DList
DList, the gay focused social networking site which I use regularly, will be closing their “big gay doors” at the beginning of next year. Citing the popularity of other social networking sites like Facebook, Twitter and Tumblr, they explained, “Without as much interest or need, we just can’t keep the community going as a vital, vibrant, sexy and fun place to express yourself. And no one wants to be a bore.” I'll miss it and am now looking for an alternative. Any suggestions?
how many male Asians have you had encounter so far? where were they from?
To be honest I've not kept count! I've hooked up with guys from Singapore, Malaysia, and Thailand.
how often u masturbate?
It depends I guess. Usually its every day but if I'm busy with work it can be every few days.
Friday, November 18, 2011
Alone in a hotel room
I've been away for a few days and am due to fly home tonight. I've not been able to have much time to myself whilst I've been away and I'm somewhere I don't know too much about. Not like some countries where I know where to find some action. I've managed to get into the hotel spa a couple of times but it was really quiet. In some hotels I stay in I usually find someone in the spa to play with but no luck so far here. Nothing like this to enjoy:
Wednesday, November 16, 2011
Straight 19 y/o Uncut Redhead Enjoys A Blowjob And Cums
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Tuesday, November 15, 2011
Monday, November 14, 2011
Sunday, November 13, 2011
Blog Design
Thanks for your comments guys - some of you left them on the blog and some of you emailed me. I've taken off the background image as I agree it was somewhat over powering. A plain background is better but I guess if you don't experiment you don't learn (which is something I remember from when I first sucked cock). Now all I need to do is work out how to centre the header - any help from anyone?
Jamie
Jamie
Friday, November 4, 2011
New Layout
I've decided to change the design of the blog. I think its time for a change. Let me know what you think.
Jamie
Jamie
Thursday, November 3, 2011
Tuesday, November 1, 2011
Sunday, October 30, 2011
Saturday, October 29, 2011
Birdy
A friend has just shown me this video. Birdy (her real name is Jasmine Van den Bogaerde), (born 15 May 1996) is an English musician known for winning the music competition Open Mic UK in 2008, at the age of 12. Her version of Bon Iver's "Skinny Love," released in 2011, was her first hit on UK music charts. She has a beautiful voice.
Friday, October 28, 2011
Sunday, October 23, 2011
Saturday, October 22, 2011
What do you usually wear in bed?
The results of the last poll show that over half of us wear nothing to bed and sleep naked. I was surprised to see that 3 people wear a jockstrap.
Nothing, I sleep naked 152 (53%)
Briefs 17 (5%)
Boxer briefs 40 (14%)
Boxers 39 (13%)
Long pants (like pajama trousers) 12 (4%)
Complete pajama 8 (2%)
Just a T-shirt 13 (4%)
Jockstrap 3 (1%)
Speedo 0 (0%)
Nothing, I sleep naked 152 (53%)
Briefs 17 (5%)
Boxer briefs 40 (14%)
Boxers 39 (13%)
Long pants (like pajama trousers) 12 (4%)
Complete pajama 8 (2%)
Just a T-shirt 13 (4%)
Jockstrap 3 (1%)
Speedo 0 (0%)
Dirty Secrets
OK guys, I want you to submit a dirty secret of yours. You can either post it as a comment to this post or email it to me. Don't hold back.
Friday, October 21, 2011
Tuesday, October 18, 2011
Sunday, October 16, 2011
Email from a gay guy who's having lots of sex
Last July, a new reader sent me the following email:
Dear GB,
The reason I'm emailing you is I stumbled across your blog after googling 'first gay dating advice'. I could have emailed other people, but I suppose I chose you because I work in the finance (well, professional services) industry and so I suppose we had that small, albeit very superficial link.
About myself - I'm on the grad scheme of one of the major firms in the City. I'm in my early 20's and only started coming out just a few months ago. Only one of my close friends knows. Since then I've made some gay friends and have been out on the scene. I will probably come out to more people soon, I really just want to time it right. Otherwise I'm comfortable with myself.
Anyway, the reason why I emailed is because, well, I met this guy. He's great. Our first 'date' started off casually. Just drinks, which morphed into dinner, then more drinks, then a cozy booth in a dimly lit bar/cafe in Soho until the early hours of the morning.
On paper it sounds good. But this is where I begin to feel - anxious? Tense?? Self-conscious??? I haven't had much experience with other guys. Yet this guy I met is about ten years older than me, and my lack of experience suddenly makes me feel very self-conscious.
Also, I like him a lot, but I don't want to sleep with him. Not yet. I like him, he's a great kisser, we get along great, but I don't feel like I want to throw him up against a wall and have raw hot sex with them.
What I want to ask is - has this happened to you? Is it common? To meet a guy, like them a lot, but NOT want to sleep with them, at least not straight away?
Thanks - I LOVE your blog. I've been trawling through the archives for a couple hours now.
In case anyone is wondering, that wasn't the email which inspired the title of this post, so read on! At the time that I received the email, I didn't have time to do full "Dear GB" posting, so I ended up answering the email in private. I told him that I thought his reticence was probably just related to his lack of experience. I suggested that he simply come clean about the situation with the guy in question, because telling the guy that he doesn't have much experience would take the pressure off. After all, everyone has to have their first time, and everyone who's had their first time knows how daunting it can be! In response to my advice, the reader sent me an email to thank me for my speedy reply :-).
However, about a month later, he sent me another email as follows:
Dear GB,
I just had a little question, a general musing if you will.
I only came out a few months ago and I've made a few gay friends actually and they are pretty good people! To be honest they are the kind of people I would have been friends with anyway, so it's quite good really.
Anyway, I noticed before I came out, or even thought about going to gay clubs or bars, I always had a 'type' in my head that I was attracted to. Not a very specific physical type, but a type nonetheless.
What I've noticed though, is that when I go out and end up meeting new people, I end up getting with them. Is this normal? Do you end up getting with most of the people you meet? Is it just a way of being friendly?
I'm pretty sure it isn't some kind of subconscious desire to just find any guy and settle down.. when I get drunk I never think like that, and I don't pull anyone, I have been attracted to the guys I've got with, but if I hadn't talked with them and gotten to know them, the thought of pulling them wouldn't have even crossed my mind!
So my question is - is it quite normal to get with guys you've only recently met, once you get to know them?
I realise my question is probably quite bizarre...
I found myself wondering, what on earth happened to this guy in between the first email and the second email :-)? On the face of it, it scarcely seems possible for a guy who seemed so shy to suddenly be sleeping with every nice that guy he meets!
However, much the same thing happened to me. I came out quite late, and was certainly a bit shy at first, but once I'd worked out how to meet guys and get them into bed there was no stopping me! I reckon that one of the good things about being gay is that one can have lots and lots of guilt free sex :-). Although straight guys are just has horny, my straight friends tell me it's usually much harder to find like-thinking women.
In the past, I've heard guys talk about sex in the early stages of friendships between gay men as "getting it out of the way". I think the idea is that it can help the two guys understand each other better, and also help them work out whether there's any potential for a relationship. I've certainly built some very good friendships with guys who I went to bed just after I got to know them. In most cases, we only went to bed once, and the friendship developed after that :-).
I've said before that I think that sleeping with lots of guys is a good way of looking for a boyfriend. It's not clear whether this reader is looking for a boyfriend or not, because he seems quite happy making lots of friends with benefits :-). But at some point he probably will want to try and find himself a nice boyfriend. Before he gets to that stage, he should be careful in case any of his new friends become keen on him for a potential relationship, because it's a good idea to avoid hurting people's feelings. Similarly the other way round, because if he's attracted to any of the guys that he sleeps with, they may well not want anything apart form no-strings fun so more than that might not be possible.
The reader asked whether his behaviour is 'normal' or not. Which kind of means that he's effectively asking whether my behaviour is 'normal'! Whatever the answer to that question is, I think that the reader is in good company :-).
Does anyone else have any thoughts for this reader?
Dear GB,
The reason I'm emailing you is I stumbled across your blog after googling 'first gay dating advice'. I could have emailed other people, but I suppose I chose you because I work in the finance (well, professional services) industry and so I suppose we had that small, albeit very superficial link.
About myself - I'm on the grad scheme of one of the major firms in the City. I'm in my early 20's and only started coming out just a few months ago. Only one of my close friends knows. Since then I've made some gay friends and have been out on the scene. I will probably come out to more people soon, I really just want to time it right. Otherwise I'm comfortable with myself.
Anyway, the reason why I emailed is because, well, I met this guy. He's great. Our first 'date' started off casually. Just drinks, which morphed into dinner, then more drinks, then a cozy booth in a dimly lit bar/cafe in Soho until the early hours of the morning.
On paper it sounds good. But this is where I begin to feel - anxious? Tense?? Self-conscious??? I haven't had much experience with other guys. Yet this guy I met is about ten years older than me, and my lack of experience suddenly makes me feel very self-conscious.
Also, I like him a lot, but I don't want to sleep with him. Not yet. I like him, he's a great kisser, we get along great, but I don't feel like I want to throw him up against a wall and have raw hot sex with them.
What I want to ask is - has this happened to you? Is it common? To meet a guy, like them a lot, but NOT want to sleep with them, at least not straight away?
Thanks - I LOVE your blog. I've been trawling through the archives for a couple hours now.
In case anyone is wondering, that wasn't the email which inspired the title of this post, so read on! At the time that I received the email, I didn't have time to do full "Dear GB" posting, so I ended up answering the email in private. I told him that I thought his reticence was probably just related to his lack of experience. I suggested that he simply come clean about the situation with the guy in question, because telling the guy that he doesn't have much experience would take the pressure off. After all, everyone has to have their first time, and everyone who's had their first time knows how daunting it can be! In response to my advice, the reader sent me an email to thank me for my speedy reply :-).
However, about a month later, he sent me another email as follows:
Dear GB,
I just had a little question, a general musing if you will.
I only came out a few months ago and I've made a few gay friends actually and they are pretty good people! To be honest they are the kind of people I would have been friends with anyway, so it's quite good really.
Anyway, I noticed before I came out, or even thought about going to gay clubs or bars, I always had a 'type' in my head that I was attracted to. Not a very specific physical type, but a type nonetheless.
What I've noticed though, is that when I go out and end up meeting new people, I end up getting with them. Is this normal? Do you end up getting with most of the people you meet? Is it just a way of being friendly?
I'm pretty sure it isn't some kind of subconscious desire to just find any guy and settle down.. when I get drunk I never think like that, and I don't pull anyone, I have been attracted to the guys I've got with, but if I hadn't talked with them and gotten to know them, the thought of pulling them wouldn't have even crossed my mind!
So my question is - is it quite normal to get with guys you've only recently met, once you get to know them?
I realise my question is probably quite bizarre...
I found myself wondering, what on earth happened to this guy in between the first email and the second email :-)? On the face of it, it scarcely seems possible for a guy who seemed so shy to suddenly be sleeping with every nice that guy he meets!
However, much the same thing happened to me. I came out quite late, and was certainly a bit shy at first, but once I'd worked out how to meet guys and get them into bed there was no stopping me! I reckon that one of the good things about being gay is that one can have lots and lots of guilt free sex :-). Although straight guys are just has horny, my straight friends tell me it's usually much harder to find like-thinking women.
In the past, I've heard guys talk about sex in the early stages of friendships between gay men as "getting it out of the way". I think the idea is that it can help the two guys understand each other better, and also help them work out whether there's any potential for a relationship. I've certainly built some very good friendships with guys who I went to bed just after I got to know them. In most cases, we only went to bed once, and the friendship developed after that :-).
I've said before that I think that sleeping with lots of guys is a good way of looking for a boyfriend. It's not clear whether this reader is looking for a boyfriend or not, because he seems quite happy making lots of friends with benefits :-). But at some point he probably will want to try and find himself a nice boyfriend. Before he gets to that stage, he should be careful in case any of his new friends become keen on him for a potential relationship, because it's a good idea to avoid hurting people's feelings. Similarly the other way round, because if he's attracted to any of the guys that he sleeps with, they may well not want anything apart form no-strings fun so more than that might not be possible.
The reader asked whether his behaviour is 'normal' or not. Which kind of means that he's effectively asking whether my behaviour is 'normal'! Whatever the answer to that question is, I think that the reader is in good company :-).
Does anyone else have any thoughts for this reader?
A pic from a recent holiday
Last month, I was on holiday with boyfriend T, and when we arrived at seaside town I spotted a little feature on the side of a nearby hill. It almost seemed like they knew I was coming!
How often do you update your blog. I love it and am always looking for your new material.
I'm pleased to hear that you love my blog. I've been pretty busy with work these past few weeks and just haven't had time to post. Hope to get back posting real soon.
Saturday, October 15, 2011
Warm Kiss - Sensual Hand
Sorry I haven't posted in a while. Lots happening - both at home and work. But I'm good - in fact couldn't be better.
Enjoy this photo
Enjoy this photo
Saturday, October 1, 2011
Indian Summer
The past few days have been fantastic as we have had unseasonably high temperatures. On Thursday it was 28 degrees as I drove home. But its not going to last much beyond today and temperatures are forecast to drop tomorrow with heavy rain expected.
We've been experiencing what they refer to as an 'Indian Summer'. According to Wikipedia an Indian summer is a meteorological phenomenon that occurs in the autumn. It refers to a period of considerably above normal temperatures, accompanied by dry and hazy conditions, usually after there has been a killing frost. Depending on latitude and elevation, the phenomenon can occur in the Northern Hemisphere between late September and mid November.
So I thought a few photos of people enjoying the sun are in order.
We've been experiencing what they refer to as an 'Indian Summer'. According to Wikipedia an Indian summer is a meteorological phenomenon that occurs in the autumn. It refers to a period of considerably above normal temperatures, accompanied by dry and hazy conditions, usually after there has been a killing frost. Depending on latitude and elevation, the phenomenon can occur in the Northern Hemisphere between late September and mid November.
So I thought a few photos of people enjoying the sun are in order.
Tuesday, September 20, 2011
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