Boyfriend problems

It seems likely that within a week, I'll be bound into legal contracts to buy a house for my boyfriend S (aka boyfriend number 1). It's all a bit traumatic. Last September, even though this is largely an anonymous blog I couldn't even bring myself to blog about the situation directly, choosing instead to write a 'Dear GB' posting to myself. Although the house that we considered buying for him last November turned out to be unsuitable, another house has been identified and we're now almost at the end of the legal process to buy it.

I also mentioned in this year's Valentine's Day posting that I seem to have fallen out with boyfriend R (aka boyfriend number 3). Losing one boyfriend might be regarded as unlucky, but to lose two is just careless! Of course, as I've said before, boyfriend R was never really a proper boyfriend, and certainly nothing close to the depth of relationship that I have with boyfriend S or boyfriend P (aka boyfriend number 2).

I find myself wondering whether boyfriend P will get on well with my friends, if he ever meets any of them. I've met a few of his friends now, but I've never introduced him to any of mine. There are two reasons why that hasn't happened, firstly because boyfriend P doesn't live in the UK, and secondly because I didn't want to put boyfriend S in an awkward situation. Apart from guys that I've met while cruising online, all my friends in London know boyfriend S. In most people's minds a gay guy has just one boyfriend, so introducing them to boyfriend P would be very confusing for them. But once boyfriend S moves into his own house I guess I won't have to worry so much about that any more.

But I do wish there was a gay equivalent to the word 'mistress'. If a straight guy divorces his wife as a result of a long affair with another woman, he might end up deepening his relationship with the other woman in which case it would be easy to explain that she used to be his 'mistress'. But whatever happens to my relationship with boyfriend P, there's no readily available gay term to describe the type of relationship that I've had with him. If anyone has any suggestions, please let me know!