Male irrationality

I've written before about the advantages of chatting to guys just after they've shot their load. In connection with hunting for a boyfriend, it's what I call the gaydar advantage. But I've only recently realised just how true the converse is, namely that guys (including me of course!) can be completely irrational before we've shot our loads.

There have been several times this year when I've met up for a bit of fun with a guy that I've seen at least once before, and at the start of the hook-up it's been clear that there's only one thing on the other guy's mind. It's because I know what they're like after they've shot their load that I was able to spot the difference. Their eyes are slightly glazed over and it's just not possible to talk to them because without doubt they're intent on one thing to the exclusion of everything else! I know that I can be like that too, but perhaps because I'm a bit older than I used to be, I think I can control it more than when I was younger.

It's also true that some kind of behaviours, while seeming quite rational in a sexual context, seem slightly absurd or irrational in an everyday context. One example of this would the things that might be said while 'talking dirty' to one's partner. Furthermore, during gay activities it often happens that one guy will cum before the other guy, and having unloaded the guy that cums first becomes more rational. So in helping the other guy to cum, the guy that cums first is able to witness the full absurdity of male sexual behaviour, in full knowledge of the fact that if it had been the other guy that had cum first then the other guy would be witnessing his 'absurd' behaviour!

This truth about male irrationality explains several things. It certainly explains why guys can be so rude on the online cruising web sites, and why it will always be like that. It explains why hook-ups with guys that one meets online are less likely to happen the further forward that they're planned, because the further forward in time the meeting is planned for the more likely it is that another opportunity for sexual release will have presented itself to one of the guys involved. It also explains why guys, including me on some occasions, will waste so much time cruising. Until we've shot our loads we're powerless to engage in any more constructive pursuits!

So I'm glad that I've now got a boyfriend again :-). With a regular partner for activities now assured, I hope to be able to spend more time on other hobbies. Indeed, I've recently started learning one or two phrases in boyfriend T's home language. Now, I wonder whether anyone can guess the first phrase that I asked boyfriend T to each me?