Thursday, October 15, 2009

Sexy Dicks

Just found this comment about my blog on Sexy Dicks:

Ok this is my favourite so far. Hot Hard Cock is raw and ready all the time. His rambling thoughts on sex show deep feelings. Most men write about the mechanics of sex, HHC writes about how it feels.

Tuesday, October 13, 2009

Masturbation: Rough or Gentle?

Do you masturbate gently or with a lot of pressure? Which method brings you to climax/orgasm faster?

Monday, October 12, 2009

Shower Time!

























































The Cum!

















Team Guys





Email from a guy with a couple of difficult friendships

A few weeks ago, a reader sent me the following email:

Dear GB,

I was the Cambridge guy who wrote to you earlier this year about playing hard to get. Since then I have had little success in finding someone and have been through an emotional roller-coaster involving a slightly younger guy. Thanks for replying to my earlier email.

I went for a date with a guy, A, from Uni and we had some fun. We met up the next day and he didn't want to take things further, which I thought was a shame, so I was a little upset. But I pretended I wasn't upset and that I wasn't really interested in him anyway, and apologised to him, on the (false) pretext that I could have been exploiting any feelings he may have had for me should we have taken it much further, since I thought he may have liked me. He thought I had little feelings for him and we became extremely good friends.

Little did he know, I've been besotted with him since, and that throughout my exam period I needed to see him every day, and we did. I was always talking about him to my close friends. They told me that he must be stupid if he couldn't tell that I liked him, and so I always thought he had some idea about my feelings.

I spent a good month at his place in the summer and we developed a very strange relationship which was semi-sexual. We would lie next to one another on the bed and embrace, and he would tease me. I had thought at the time that this was cruel behaviour if he knew that I liked him, because it would be exploiting my feelings for him. This behaviour, and the loving way he treated me, made me feel uncomfortable, since I knew it wouldn't be able to result in a relationship. During that holiday I nursed him through illness and was always willing to talk to him about his concerns. He sometimes got angry with me at the time, which upset me considering I had tried to help him. To make things worse, once when drunk he did seem to want to do stuff, and I did not know if it was sensible to involve myself with him.

I invited him to an event at which a friend of mine in his mid/late 20's, friend B, was present. I was to stay the night at B's. A asks B if he could stay, since it was convenient. I notice that B starts to flirt with A, which A never noticed at the time. I felt worried they would get together, since there was nowhere else I could stay that night, and nowhere else they could feasibly go other than the room we were sleeping in. As time went on, and we went back to B's, I noticed he wanted A and me, both younger guys, to share one bed, and have fun. I tried to occupy the middle of the bed but B, who is older, and has more authority, easily got me to move. I didn't want to do anything because I'm not attracted to B. So the whole night was spent listening to them, literally touching me. And I couldn't sleep and felt like crying. The guy I was besotted with was being messed around with in my presence.

It all reached a head when I had my party at A's. A brought a boy with him. A had been showing interest in my ex, but I told him that it would really upset me if he got together with him, as I was still attached to my ex. In reality I was more attached to A, but A didn't seem to know that. I would just be jealous if A and my ex got together, if not slightly turned on by the idea. A agreed not to do anything with my ex and didn't. I got very drunk and was rude to A's new boy and to A behind his back, since I thought that he had known for months that I had liked him, and so I thought that his semi sexual behaviour towards me and his behaviour towards B, had been cruel and exploitative of my feelings. A was enraged as the boy he was with was so angry with me that they had slept back to back. In the morning he told me he never wanted to see me again. Naturally, I was devastated, and he still didn't know I liked him, unbeknownst to me. I spoke to B and asked for his advice and it was sorted out. I told A that one of the reasons I behaved so strangely was that I liked him and thought he was exploiting my feelings. I told him that I had never been able to express some of my feelings to people, even though on the surface I seem quite intense. A had said that I was extremely self-centred and never helped him, which really upset me, since I had nursed him and helped him for a month.

Since then, A became more involved with B, and this has upset me, since I valued B's friendship in part for it's independence from entanglement with my other friends and I was jealous of B. I am still jealous of B, even though A and B are just friends now. My first question is can I continue being friends with B the way I was before?
Another problem is that I continued to hide my feelings for A from A, saying that they had subsided. I met A's dad when drunk and told him everything I feel for A and he told A. I just don't want A to know, since A gets arrogant when other people like him, and I fear he will tell others. My second question is, should I avoid A for some time?

GB, I hope you can help this sad, sad under-confident boy!

P.S, The fact that A didn't like me made me have signs of an eating disorder and severe worry about my appearance, which is a shame, my ex thinks, since I'm not ugly. (I attach a few pictures of myself for you to look at)


Looking at the pics that this reader sent me, I thought that he's a great looking guy, and a very very very long way from ugly. I also hope that he doesn't develop any eating disorders because he's quite thin enough! Thinking about the situation with his friend A, I felt that it would be best if stops seeing him, so given that it would be a while until I'd be able to do this posting I sent him an encouraging email with that suggestion. However I wasn't ready for the reply that he sent me:

Hi GB,

Thanks for your reply. The problem with not seeing A for a long time is that he is one of my best friends. We have a very close friendship. I think it may be strong enough to withstand the strength of my attraction to him. He's going back to Uni soon though, whereas I've just graduated and am planning to live abroad for a while soon, so I suppose that might help!

The weirdest thing about it was talking to his dad about him, and the fact that I think his dad is hot (at least in a few of his pictures) and A told him so. I told his dad a lot of things that perhaps embarrassed A, but I also told him all about how I like older, dominating guys, and he seemed interested in me. Would it be unacceptable if I got with A's dad? I imagine this as a hypothetical since I don't find him nearly as attractive as his son, in fact I don't think I would do anything with him, since it is really pictures of him a few years back that I think are hot. The question is, then, is it unacceptable as a matter of principle to sleep with the father (or immediate family member excluding partner) of someone you have a romantic connection to?

Best, and sorry if I sound perverse,


I was still trying to work out what I thought about the question at the end of that email when another email arrived:

Dear GB,

I must clarify some things I said. A's dad, whose photo I thought quite hot, is not married or, I think, in a relationship.

Also, I didn't make clear that all the time I've known A (until after the party) I constantly gave the impression of not fancying him because I was scared how he would react if he knew I did, as we spent so much time together, and I didn't want things to change. I tried so hard to give the impression I didn't fancy him that it often resulted in me seeming rather cold towards him, which caused tensions. So it is plausible that he didn't know that I fancied him, although, hearing my story, it may well seem to others that he probably knew.

Another problem I failed to mention was as follows. My ex and A both look after me, as I'm highly sensitive and behave like a little boy! Now, I have recently been arranging to meet with people from gaydar, mostly dominating men. I feel the need to give the number of the contacts I have made to A and my ex (in case something goes wrong), but this puts me in a dilemma. They want to know exactly who I'm meeting and see their gaydar page, as they're very protective of me. I can't tell anyone else the number of the people I meet, etc. So I have to tell A and my ex. But I'm afraid they'll see my taste for extreme kinkiness as evidence of some deficiency in me, whether moral or otherwise, and if they saw the profiles of those involved then they might well. They do know I'm into that stuff. I just don't want them to look down on me. But they are my best friends, and I'm a compulsive and paranoid worrier, so perhaps I'm being silly.

The problem is, with all the stories I've told you, the masochist in me loves this worrying situation, and loves the drama, but, at the same time I dislike the bad things that happen. And so I'm perennially caught between being hurt and upset and liking it and being hurt and upset and not liking it, which causes...more pain.

I hope this email doesn't make you look down on me, the same way that I fear my friends may look down on me.

Best,


I replied to this email immediately to say that it's never my intention to look down on anyone. I'm certainly far from perfect myself, so to quote a well known religious text, it really is a question of "let he who is without sin, cast the first stone". I also replied to say that I thought that he'd probably benefit from some professional counselling, even though I'm sure that he's quite capable of having normal and healthy relationships. In any case, I don't like to turn away any request for advice, so I'll now do my best to say things that hopefully he'll find helpful.

It seems clear to me that this reader has had a crush on his friend A, and that his feelings aren't going to be reciprocated. It even seems likely to me that A has been taking advantage of the reader, for example by getting him to look after him when he was ill. Because of the reader's crush on A, he's always been there for him, so much so that A probably got to the stage where he took the reader's help and attention for granted. Although the reader writes that he thinks his friendship with A may be strong enough to withstand the strength of his attraction to A, I don't think that the reader himself is strong enough. So to emphasise what I said in my first recent email to the reader, for his own good I think he needs to stop seeing or even communicating with A. I'd suggest that it would be safe for the reader to start meeting A again when the reader has a new romantic interest in his life, preferably when they're at the stage where they're calling each other 'boyfriends' :-).

Regarding the reader's concern that his friends might look down upon him if they see the gaydar profiles of the guys that he wants to meet, I'd suggest that perhaps he could take more responsibility for his own life and not tell them in future. One thing he could do if he's concerned for his safety is to find an email system which does delayed delivery, so that when he gets back from an encounter with one of these dominating guys he could then prevent an email containing contact and gaydar profile details from being sent to them. The email system that I use at work has that feature, so I suspect that it can be found elsewhere too. In any case, given that his friends know about the kind of stuff that he's into, they won't look down on him if they're proper friends, so it's a good test of whether they're good friends or not. However I think that he should stop using his friend A, and should just rely on his ex, assuming that his ex is happy to carry on playing that role.

In his first email, the first question that this reader asks is whether he can continue being friends with B the way it was before? I'd think the answer is 'no', because he must take account of the way that B behaved in connection with A. Surely it was a bit rude of B to want a threesome with both A and the reader, without discussing with the reader in advance? So I think that their friendship has evolved, although it's up to the guys themselves to work out what kind of friendship they'll have in future.

Finally, the reader also asks is whether it's unacceptable as a matter of principle to sleep with the father (or immediate family member) of someone that one has a romantic connection to? I reckon that it always depends on the precise circumstances and what the motives are, so I don't think that it's wrong as a matter of principle. However, there are lots of situations where I reckon that it would be wrong. For example, I think it would be wrong if the motive is simply to try and upset the person with whom one's had a romantic connection. It would also be wrong if the other family member is simply a substitute for the person with whom one's had a romantic connection. In both those case it's wrong not least because it's not fair on the other family member. So one criteria for it not to be wrong is that the intentions of both people should be 'honourable', and that they'd have been keen to sleep with each other if the other person didn't exist.

Do any other readers have any thoughts relating to these questions?

Sunday, October 11, 2009

Some fun whilst I was away working

I was away with work the other week and found myself with a free day. The weather was warm so i decided to hit the local beach. I sat in the sun for a while, then went to the men’s room to shower the sand off me. It was a large men’s room with a locker area, toilets and urinals, and an open shower area, separated from the rest of the area by a cement wall. I went to the lockers, and took off my speedos, grabbed my towel, and went to the showers. No one was there.

I turned on the shower and started soaping myself up. I heard someone come into the building, and didn't think much of it. A couple of minutes later, a twink came into the shower room. He had long curly hair, narrow hips, a smooth chest, and a long dangling cock surrounded by a thick long bush. He stood at the shower next to mine, and said HI, with a broad smile. As I looked him over, I returned the greeting. He commented that the beach was pretty deserted today, and I agreed, saying it looks like we have the place to ourselves. He said that was fine with him, and looked around for soap. When he didn't find any, he asked if he could use my soap. I had just finished soaping my crotch, and handed it to him. Without rinsing it off, he started soaping his cock and balls. I watched as he soaped himself and I started to get hard. He kept soaping himself and said there's nothing that feels as good as soaping your cock, unless you got another person. I said yeah, unless you got someone else to soap you up.

He smiled and said he loves when someone soaps him up. I gulped, and he reached over and started soaping my cock and balls. He said he hoped I didn't mind. He just wanted me to feel good. I stood there moaning as he soaped my balls and slid a soapy finger in my ass. I reached between his legs and started soaping his balls and then his thick 7.5 inch cock. He moaned and told me how good it felt, and asked if he could soap my asshole. I said ok and leaned against the shower wall. He started sliding his soapy fingers in and out of my hole. I was getting lost in the feeling of it, when he pulled his fingers out of my hole and I felt him part my cheeks and I felt his soapy cock against my hole. He pulled back and I felt him put a condom on. He then held my hips and slowly slid his cock inside me. He moaned as his cock went inside me deeper and deeper. He held my shoulders as he thrust his cock in and out of me. I was so excited, I started to cum without touching myself. He thrust harder and faster, and soon I felt him throbbing and exploding in my ass.

He pulled out of me and thanked me. We stepped out of the shower and dried ourselves off in the locker room. He said he wished he could find guys like me in here more often. I asked how many times he's done this, and he said he fucked three other guys here, and that he loved fucking guys like me. I said its kind of dangerous doing it here since its so public, and he agreed but didn't know where else he could do it. I told him I loved getting fucked by him and he could come over my hotel room and fuck me as much as he wanted. He said he could cum at least three more times, so off we went to my hotel.

As we walked there, I asked him how he got started fucking guys. He said about four months ago he was at the beach early in the morning, and after his swim, he went to take a shower. As he was doing a soapy jerk off, a guy came in and watched him stroke, and the guy asked him to fuck him. He had never fucked anyone before so he slid his cock in the guy and fucked him until he cummed in his ass. He has kept coming back to the beach when it was almost empty hoping to find horny guys who wanted to get fucked.

When we got to my room, we got undressed and he started feeling me all over. He said he loved my smooth body and started sucking my nipples. I got on my knees and held his narrow hips as I took his hardening cock in my mouth and started to move up and down his thick cock. I gently tugged his balls as I sucked him and he ran his fingers through my hair. I got on my back and pulled my spread legs on my chest. He got between my legs and slid his thick cock in my ass. Since we didn't have to worry about someone coming in, he fucked me with long slow strokes. We moaned together as he slid himself in and out of me. He said how much he loved fucking me, and thrust harder and faster inside me. I felt pressure building and knew I was going to shoot. He reached down and started stroking my cock. I told him I was going to cum and he jerked me harder and faster. I started moaning and grunting, and I shot several ropes of cum between us. He scooped some with his finger and tasted it. A few moments later, his cock erupted and he filled my ass with his hot cum.

As we lay there, I got between his legs and spread them wide. I licked his smooth low hanging balls, and the hairy area between his balls and ass. I started licking his hole and he writhed in pleasure. He was stroking his cock as I rimmed him, using his precum as a lube. He was about to shoot his load and I took his throbbing cock in my mouth and let him pump every drop of cum in my mouth and down my throat. He then said he needed to get going, and got dressed quickly. I knew I'd never see him again, and was just glad we had the day.
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