The gay bachelor lifestyle

Although I'm not single, since ex-boyfriend S moved out I've been living alone so it's very much a gay bachelor lifestyle. In many ways I miss having him around, but in other ways I'm glad that we've separated like this. It's only a brisk ten minute walk to his house, so we've been seeing each other about twice a week which is nice. I'm still convinced that this split was the right thing to do, so I'm now looking forward to our future friendship, rather than back at the reasons for the split.

Having to do all the household chores myself comes as a bit of a shock though! I've finally found a new cleaner who did her first day yesterday, and I can already tell that she's going to be brilliant :-). Although myself and ex-boyfriend S employed a cleaner for many years, she was finding it harder and harder to climb the stairs in the house and do a good job at everything, so with ex-boyfriend S moving out it seemed like the right time to let her retire. With more to do around the house, together with all the other things in my life, unfortunately I've had less time for blogging.

As I've said before though, I do find it hard to sleep at night without a nice guy to cuddle up to. Although I haven't found any time to blog about it, I've gradually been getting closer to M who I met a couple of months ago, but as yet we haven't slept with each other overnight. He knows about both boyfriend P and ex-boyfriend S so it could be that he's a bit cautious about getting close to someone like me with all these relationships in his background. Another complication is that although we met online, by some bizarre coincidence it turns out that we both work for the same bank in FSA regulated roles, so if we do get closer we may have an obligation to be open about our association with our employer!

However, I reckon the biggest problem with living alone is web sites like gaydar! Without anyone living with me to keep me under control, I find that I waste too much time cruising online. "Hmmm, I wonder if there's a nice guy nearby for a quickie?" I'll think as I'm climbing the stairs for bed. When I lived with ex-boyfriend S I'd spend time blogging about it instead, which is a much more productive occupation :-). Luckily my work hasn't suffered yet. However, my overall conclusion is that I do need to find a new live-in boyfriend to keep my natural urges in check!