Computer problems :-(

I guess I should get a new laptop. My current one is about four and half years old, and a hard disk failure a couple of days ago is causing me lots of problems :-(. Perhaps it happened because I took it on holiday with me, so it was subjected to much more shaking and moving that usual.

Luckily I can still post to this blog from work, but I don't want to be caught blogging at work so I can't write too much. I guess I'm also lucky that I've got a boyfriend again. Online cruising as a route to satisfying one's natural urges is a bit difficult without a computer!

So at the moment I'm wondering what the most reliable laptop brand is, whether I should accept Vista or wait for Windows 7 (NB: I hate Apple!), the advantages of the new Solid State Drives versus traditional hard disk drives, etc. If any readers have any thoughts on these crucial matters then please leave comments!

How long do you masturbate for?

OK folks how long do you normally do it for? Does it happen quickly or take a while? And do you keep holding off and then starting again so you can do it longer?

College Guys

A couple more holiday pics

Myself and boyfriend T should be returning to London later today. It's been an excellent holiday, and we've got on very well with each other :-). But I haven't had any time for any proper blogging! So instead, I'm just posting a couple more holiday pics. In my post last Wednesday I wondered whether anyone could identify the city that we'd been staying in. It turned out that several readers easily worked out that we'd been in Rome. This time, the two pics were taken in a different towns or cities, but can anyone identify the locations?

When You Guys Are Done, You Can Do Mine!

Whose cock is this?

A couple of holiday pics

As I said last week, I'm now on holiday with Boyfriend T. We spent three days in a city, where the two photographs below were taken, and then yesterday we hired a car and drove out to stay at a hotel in the countryside. So can anyone work out the name of the city where the two photographs were taken?

Erections whilst having a massage

I always get erections whether I get a massage from a male or female but then again I'm bi so that doesn't say anything. Do you get erections on the massage table? Is that normal or accepted? What do you do? Does it make any difference if you're massaged by a male or a female?

Email from a bicurious student

One morning, just over a week ago, I woke up to find the following email in my inbox:

Dear GB

I am a finance student studying in one of well known universities in UK. I just found your blog today which I found very impressive. I am glad that you found your new bf and hope your guys get along well together. I am about to graduate this year and now I am looking for a job. It is really difficult to find a job these days, even more harder when you are not British. Do you have any advise for job hunting?

Another thing is about my sexuality, I don't know exactly what I am. I like going out and flirting with girls, watch porn as normal guys do, but I also like to look at guy's bodies and watch gay porn. I might be bi-sexual but when the time comes, such as arrange a meeting up with some guy, I am so scared and nervous. These things do not happen to me when I am going out or hooking up with girls. I have tried a few times with guys but they just wanna suck my dick...well..they might want more but I just stop at that point. You know, some time when I think back about that it made me feel sick. However, I still love to look at guys and gay porn and wanna try again;p, I don't know why. What should I do? Should I just try again? And this time he has to be a good looking and nice guy. Oh, I forgot to tell you that I am straight acting guy.

Thanks

Before I went to work I sent the reader a brief reply, telling him that I didn't really have any advice for job hunting. It's been quite a while since I was a fresh graduate looking for work, so these days I'm very disconnected from what one has to do to find a good job. Although I've been involved in a very minor way in graduate recruitment, I'm not at all sure what attributes employers are really looking for in candidates. My only suggestion for the reader was to try and resolve any issues relating to work permits and visas before applying for jobs, in the event that he's eligible for such a visa.

Although this reader didn't use the word bi-curious in his email, it seemed to me from what he wrote that the word describes him perfectly. He seems to like girls, but then it's clear that he's curious about guys too. The balance in his email suggests that he could be mostly straight, although it's equally possible that he's just starting to come to terms with the fact that he's gay. Bisexuality is another possibility, but as I think I've said before, genuine bisexuality is very rare and most people tend to be either mostly straight or mostly gay. If a bisexual is in a relationship and that relationship ends, typical behaviour is to move into a relationship with someone with the opposite gender to their previous partner. Indeed, the relationship might have ended because neither gender can give a bisexual everything they need.

But there's no doubt in my mind that he should try and hook up with guys again. His nervousness could well come from peer pressure or family pressure to be straight. He could also be worried that discovering that he actually prefers guys will turn his life upside down. Although that could well be a consequence, the eventual consequences of not establishing his true sexuality could be worse. Indeed, if a gay guy tries to deny his sexuality and ends up marrying a woman, although he may succeed in the short term in the long term he may well find himself surreptitiously meeting guys for sex. The result is likely to be divorce, shame and unhappiness. But if he works out that he is in fact gay, then after the initial trauma he'll be able to find himself a nice boyfriend and is likely to live a much happier life :-).

It's interesting that the reader says in his email "... this time he has to be a good looking and nice guy". I guess this means that in his previous attempts at hooking up with guys, perhaps as a result of his conflicted attitudes towards the fact that he might be gay, he's ended up meeting guys that he's not attracted to or who haven't been very nice people. It's easy to see how that could have happened, perhaps because he's been acting on impulse to explore this gay side without being found out, and perhaps because he's been keen to get it over with as quickly as possible. But of course, it's a mistake to rush into the bedroom with a guy that one isn't attracted to. There's nothing wrong with being gay, and there's also nothing wrong with being straight and having an encounter with a guy just to make sure that one's straight. So he needs to try and relax, and as he says, find a nice good-looking guy for his next hook-up!

Does anyone else have any thoughts for this reader?

Hot bods!

My kind of shelf

Cumming in ice cold water, then playing with congealed cum

Have you ever done this? I've cum in a glass before and then drank it but never done this sort of thing before. This is what the guy who did this said:

I filled a container with ice cold water from the fridge on one of the hottest, most humid days of the year and plunged my cock into the super-cold water as I pumped out 8 clouds of hot spunk. After stirring the resulting mixture with my finger, I pulled out a strange white, rubbery mass and played with it a bit. One of the weirdest things I've ever done. (There was a big splash as I spilled some water trying to get the right angle, but you can't hear it much on the video.)

On holiday

I'm off on a trip for a week or so with boyfriend T so I may not be able to blog much. However, I intend to try and find time to answer the one pending 'Dear GB' query, and perhaps I'll be able to post a few pics too. Although I went with boyfriend T for a long weekend to Paris , and we also went away for another long weekend in May, this holiday is going to be for much longer so it'll be a good test of whether this relationship can work. Wish me luck :-).

Nice one!

This is a sexy guy!

Hot Cargo Guys

Email from a gay student in the UK

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Recruits

Nice package!

A reminder of life at uni

I had a drink last night with Luke who was one of my flat mates at uni. He reminded me of the time when I was fucking a girl in my room that we both knew and he walked in on us and did not leave, but sat on my chair as I came in her. She did not stop fucking me, so I continued as he watched us, and as he did he pulled his hard cock out and stroked until he came! Two weeks later, I walked in on him now fucking her and as I did they again did not stop, but seeing that huge cock in her wet cunt and hearing her moan as he stroked her with it made me feel a bit intimidated again, and also very very hard! I left them to finish. When I came back I got mad at him for fucking one of my dates. He said she came by looking for me to fuck her but since I was gone, she wanted him! So he fucked her. We soon got over it and both fucked her in the flat a few times together! She told us that we both had the hottest bodies in uni and that both our cocks were really big, but that with Luke in her cunt she felt as if she was being fucked by a huge dildo!

Rowers

At school and then University I was on the rowing team. Haven't rowed for a couple of years now and I do miss it.

Weird sex facts

Have you ever wanted to know what the longest penis in the world is? What’s the longest anyone has ever had sex for? Most well-attended orgy ever?

Well thanks to World Sex Records, we have the answers to all those questions and more.

They reckon that the longest human penis measures between 10 and 12 inches (25.4 to 30.5 cm) when erect, that Mae West set the standard when she engaged in 15 hours of continuous intercourse with a guy named “Ted,” and that the biggest orgy ever captured on film involved 250 couples performing sex acts simultaneously for Japanese adult company Soft on Demand.

The website also compiles facts on the animal world. Want to know which bird has the longest penis? Which animals are the world’s best kissers, smooching for up to 25 minutes at a time? Ever wondered how deer masturbate?

Thongs

As some of you know I have a thing for girls in thongs!

A trip to watch London gay pride

"Did you know that it's London gay pride day next Saturday?" asks my friend T, when we were cuddling in bed one morning about ten days ago.

"Oh really?" I reply, "Actually I didn't know. Shall we go and march in the parade then?"

"... NO WAY!" replies T, almost speechless that the idea of joining the parade even occurred to me.

"Well how about we just go and watch it then?" I offer, snuggling into his naked body from behind.

"Yes, actually I'd like to see it :-). I've never seen a gay pride parade before!"

"OK great," I reply, holding him tightly, "so we'll watch it this year, and then we can march in the parade next year!"

"In your dreams!"

I don't pursue the subject, and on the day of the parade, we go shopping in the morning before taking up a good position to watch the parade along Oxford Street. It takes the parade just over an hour to pass, during which time T takes lots of photographs.

"So what did you think?" I ask him afterwards.

"It was good," he says thoughtfully, "although I expected more outrageous costumes!"

"We'd probably have to go to the gay Mardi Gras in Sydney if you want to see totally outrageous!"

In the evening we have a party to go to, and as usual when I take a new friend to meet some of my friends, everyone wonders whether T is my new boyfriend. The same thing had happened a couple of weeks earlier when I'd taken my friend who sometimes gets hayfever to meet some other friends. On that occasion, when someone had mistaken us for boyfriends, my friend who sometimes gets hayfever had been quite uncomfortable with the idea. Later on the same night I also heard him say that he prefers being single. But at the party after the pride march, T didn't seem to mind being mistaken for my boyfriend, although of course he had to tell people that we weren't together.

So lying in bed with T the following morning there's just one thing on my mind. Should I ask him to be my boyfriend? And if so, what exactly should I say? And when, but perhaps it would be better to leave it a week or two, and if he does want to be my boyfriend then when should we discuss what we want from the relationship, and does he want to live with me, and what about monogamy, and what about if he ends up having to go back to his home country, and what if I’m always the boyfriend who doesn't exist because he's so closeted, and, and ...

A couple of hours later, we're having breakfast with each other and I simply can't bear it any more.

"Um, T," I start, in a matter of fact voice as though I'm about to ask him to pass the orange juice, "would you like to be my boyfriend?"

Initially he's completely startled and looks away, unable to believe that I've asked him that question out of the blue. But then he looks at me and I smile, and when a big smile comes over his face I know that I'm going to get the answer that I'm looking for.

"Yes," replies boyfriend T, "we should try :-)."

Because he has to go, we don't have much time to discuss anything, but it doesn't matter. I feel so happy :-)))). We'll be able to talk about everything over the coming weeks.

Despite all my concerns and all the angst in my recent posts [1, 2] about "Should I?" or "Shouldn't I?", in the end I was powerless to take any other course of action. I love the guy, so rational thought is impossible! It's all very well being rational when I'm answering the "Dear GB" emails that people send me, but I guess that that's only possible because I'm disconnected from their lives.

"Don't forget," I tell him as he's leaving, "you'll be able to march in the pride parade next year holding your boyfriend's hand :-). That would be OK wouldn't it?"

"Maybe," he says, giving me a kiss, "let's see!"

Sounds like there's been a bit of progress already :-).

In the locker room

beautiful details... really sensual...

Letting your pubes stick out of your speedos

Kim and I were swimming at our local pool this morning and there was a guy wearing these tiny little speedos that were so small his massive bush of pubic hair was sticking out of them. I'm guessing this was not by accident.

Does anybody else let the pubes show when they're in their swim trunks?

Petit Matin

Another reason why I want to be at the beach!

Happy 4th July

Bonds

Male Back Side

An Asian versus a Western perspective

A few months ago, I went with T to see the film "The Reader", starring Kate Winslet and Ralph Fiennes. One of the reasons that I wanted to see it was that Kate Winslet won an oscar for her role, and indeed, it's a good film.

*** plot spoiler follows! ***

The initial scenes of the film occur shortly after the end of the Second World War. The basic plot is that Kate Winslet's character likes being read to, and gradually as the plot unfolds, one discovers that the reason for this is that she's illiterate. Another secret of hers is that during the Second World War she was a guard at the Auschwitz concentration camp. Eventually she and some other women end up being put on trial for what they did while they were guards at Auschwitz. However, during the trial it turns out that Kate Winslet's character is so ashamed of being illiterate that she won't even admit it when accused of doing something that she couldn't possibly have done because of her illiteracy. The result is that she's sentenced to life in prison, while the other former guards get off with relatively light sentences.

The day after we saw the film, I end up discussing it with T. I may not have mentioned this before but T is Asian, and until recently had lived all of his life in his home country.

"It was fascinating how Kate Winslet's character wrecked her life because she couldn't admit that she was illiterate," I say, feeling pretty sure of my conclusion.

"Actually," replies T, "I didn't see it like that at all, because she got exactly what she wanted."

"But how can you say that?" I ask, astounded that T sees it so differently. "If she'd have admitted that she couldn't read or write then she wouldn't have wasted away in prison for all those years."

"That's true, but for her that wasn't the important thing, because if it had been then she would have admitted her illiteracy. She didn't want to lose face and admit that she couldn't read or write. As it turned out she was able to keep her secret, so she succeeded in her most important objective :-)."

I'm shocked at T's rational analysis of the situation, because that conclusion would never have occurred to me. One can still debate the subject of course, because arguably Kate Winslet's character would have had a happier life overall if she'd admitted illiteracy and avoided the life prison sentence, or early on in her life had made learning to read and write her objective instead.

The fact that T can see some things so differently to me means that it could be a fascinating and rewarding experience if I end up being his boyfriend. However as I said in my previous post, I worry about how closeted T is, and how he can't imagine admitting that he's gay to his straight friends and family. Indeed, I sometimes get the impression that he may regard telling them that he's gay as being comparable to Kate Winslet's character admitting her illiteracy! However, the good thing is that in the film, eventually Kate Winslet's character learned how to read and write :-).

The Gropebox

Rupes of Fancies and Fuckeries fame has a new blog - The Gropebox. Check it out.

Pubic Hair

Have you tried this?

Pubic Hair

My kind of game!